B is for Beautiful

My Friends Are Beautiful

I worked at a behavioral health hospital with kids and teenagers for 3 years. During that time I became close friends with one of the managers. He wasn’t my unit manager, but he visited my unit frequently and he took a real interest in the people he worked with. His name was Ernest and I could always count on him to make my day better. download

One of the things that was so endearing about Ernest was his “hello beautiful” greeting. Every time I walked through the door it was the first thing out of his mouth. The definition of beauty is: the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind, whether arising from sensory manifestations (as shape, color, sound, etc.), a meaningful design or pattern, or something else (as a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest).

I have not been good about keeping up with several people I used to work with, Ernest being one of them, but I bet if I walked through the door tomorrow he would look up, smile, and say “hello beautiful” because to him I am. Likewise, my friend Jennifer calls me beautiful when greeting me after a long while.

The people you surround yourself with can either lift you up or bring you down. You must choose your friends wisely because eventually you will reflect their thinking and behavior. I think on my friends Ernest and Jennifer and so many more and know that they are truly beautiful.

I Am Beautiful

Self-esteem has been an issue for me most of my life. Growing up I heard how fat and ugly and worthless I was from my brothers, I was a shy recluse most of high school, and my two serious romantic interests during college only made things worse.

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It took me a long time to realize that the image these boys and men projected on me were not me at all. I am an independent, intelligent woman. I am Beautiful. I do not need their approval.

Life Is Beautiful

Life is what we choose to make it. You cannot wait for other people to tell you who to be or what to do or how to think. Each person is a unique individual and each person is accountable for their own actions.

(On a side note: If someone doesn’t accept responsibility for their actions you must forgive them and move on. You cannot make them change and it is not your place. You can try to show them a better way, but in the end you are only responsible for you.)

One of the most important life lessons I’ve learned is that life happen whether you shut yourself in a closet every day or you go do something. Life must be lived to the fullest. Do not wait for it to pass you by. Do the things you want to do. Dream big and dare to go after your dreams. 9563

I don’t know about your life, but mine is truly beautiful, not because I don’t make mistakes and not because things don’t go wrong, but because I choose to see it as such.

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